Even your husband shouldn’t be allowed to picture / record you during intimate moments. This is not just red line but far from red line. This is the first thing you must know about yourself and your self-respect.
But as majority is comprised of idiots, so they do. They record such moments as just another normal moment to be recorded. You really need to be top-level-stupid to do that.
Rest is what has been written earlier. The online world is unsafe for all genders EQUALLY. Anyone can be a victim. However, women suffer more in the end. Men are awed by their ‘scoring’ even with their tiny instrument they happily record and share. This is another level of being an idiot.
Here, in this discourse, we are part of the problem. The problem is our obsession with seeing others doing things which are natural and biological.
We all do the same things. As we all are the same. With the same needs and systems. Just because you are safe by now doesn’t mean you have moral authority over today’s victims.
Involuntarily, people have been taped in washrooms, try rooms, cinemas, hotels and everywhere. Married couples have been taped by hidden cameras. Because cameras are everywhere.
Only if we stop talking about leaked stuff and stop sharing it, this shall change. If society will stop labeling someone because of a leaked video or picture – made voluntarily or involuntarily – the related risk and trauma will diminish gradually.
On a sidenote: Every single share is a downgraded version of your moral self. And every single share is kind of “gunah-e-jariya”. You’ve seen, fine. Why is there this need to share?
The moral brigade who thinks naming and shaming would make them pious. Well, that won’t. Those who are caught doing anything – including cheating – were just unlucky.
That reminds me of what Adam Sandler once said in a movie: “It’s easy to be a judgmental prick when nobody wants to fuck you.”
First, we are curious to find such videos and pictures. Then we use them ‘personally’. Then we share and talk about them. And after that we give lectures about morality and religion and how bad society has become.
Bhai, society has always been like that. Read Manto or Ismat or anyone. Or pretty much anyone who has penned down human behavior. You love Bukowski, however pretty much he offered was words for what we have cameras now. Cameras. The only difference. Cameras in our pockets all the time, with memory disks, to record stuff and make lives around us miserable.
And what has changed actually? Nothing. Bodies are same. They have pretty much same operational capacities. The numbers are same. Yet, there is this constant sale of sex, sexuality, and glamour on TV (and now social media particularly Instagram) that people are becoming obsessed more than ever before.
With more additions. Strange ones. Porn. More porn. More and more porn.
Society is as ‘immoral’ as it was before. For me, this isn’t even immoral. Immorality is violence, rape, child abuse, domestic abuse, and related stuff. If madrassahs don’t make you angry for unsafe children, then it’s better to shut up now because these male dominated schools are the foundation of sexual molestation in Pakistan which then spreads all over the country.
May be, some day, when the entire world will be naked, no one be curious enough to count the moles over other bodies. By the way, this is to happen. This is the way next life would be, during the final trial, and no one would be looking and lusting at that time.
