I was scrolling through deep and insightful reels on Instagram and I found this. Let me quote the exact words:
“A side chick wants to be the main chick and that’s why men get caught cheating. A side guy wants to remain a side guy forever and that’s why women are not easily caught.”
Someone commented, “even the main guy wants to be a side guy so he can have a side chick too.”
Incredible. Isn’t it?
Before any further ado, remember, there are as many cheating women as there are men. Men don’t cheat with trees. It’s just a matter of choice that men are caught. Women aren’t, at least not that easily. Else, the two row the same boat with equal numbers of partners. In fact, it’s one woman snatching the home of another woman to be the main chick. Yes, men aren’t blameless but, in such matters, they don’t even think from the upper brain. They think from the zipper brain.
Let’s not blame any gender here. Blame the blameworthy. The false stigma of side and cheating. Else, we are missing the incredible and natural importance of the side here.
Restaurants know that. For example, at Nando’s they ask, “What would you like on the side?”, even if you’re with a side already. That’s how it is and how it should be.
In fact, it’s not even a side. It’s the main course. How can I make sense?
Ever noticed what’s the key social practice based on morality and blah blah that all religions agree on? Marriage. And divorce. They have all banned sides in complete agreement. Yet all the religions with their most devout followers and preachers, still cheat. It’s natural. Basic human instinct. Cardinal truth.
Cheating. So anti-religious yet widespread across the world, and it can’t be trialed. Law can’t do anything on it. It’s so ambiguous that the rationality of laws couldn’t get a hold of it.
Or perhaps, cheating isn’t even immoral? Imagine that! Humanity may have to rise to that consciousness. And then scriptures can be reinterpreted. Like always.
Anyway, back to the present. Imagine all the religions agreed on a single point and all yet all missed the point. No wit here. Read about ancient societies and how the functions of marriage were performed before the concept of marriage.
It was all matriarchal before turning into patriarchal after Agricultural Revolution. Men needed labor. Hence, institution of marriage was formed. Then polygamy. More marriages, more children, more labor, and more cultivation. Try reading Marriage & Morals by Bertrand Russell.
The concepts are so unnatural and so inorganic that people strive and struggle in relationships for decades. For nothing. People lose their prime years on an endless endeavor. Let me point towards a happy example. Look closely at those who are happy: people with a slave mentality. People of the status quo. Afraid and cowardly. Hence, saying cheese!
Reminds me of another epiphany that if you haven’t been divorced at least once, you’re a person of the status quo and will function really well in employments where less brain and more blind following is required. Like in the military. Like our boys…
Deviation. Apologies.
So. Nothing can be as ugly as someone bound to someone else psychologically, force, stigmas, morals, or whatever. Break the shackles. And cheat. Taste it before death, at least once, so you may smile on your deathbed, that you lived once, even prematurely.
Remember Adam and Eve. The first act that got the first couple here on earth was a simple deviation from a simple command from the Lord. Because that’s who we are. The rebels. Basic. Human. Instincts.
Imagine a world as John Lennon did. If there’s no hate, no grudge, no envy, and no jealousy because of sides – half of the world’s problems would be solved. And we could enter wars more conveniently.
Now, as Nando’s asks, ask yourself as well. Do you want a side? And offer your side a side and let the meal spread across the table. Let them all dine in. Let them all live.
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